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103: Nate Regier: I made two huge mistakes

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103: Nate Regier: I made two huge mistakes

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Nate Regier Show Notes

Nate Regier made a significant leadership blunder. Until he made a bigger one. Nate published a story about a client and didn’t get permission from the CEO. He also wrote the story in a manner which came across arrogant and self-serving. Listen to how Nate is STILL working to get over this hump.

Nate is a down to earth guy with a global perspective on life. He grew up the son of missionary parents in Zaire and Botswana, experiencing first-hand the struggles of poverty and injustice, and the joys of making a positive difference with compassion.

Nate is passionate about seeing multiple perspectives on situations, exploring the nuances of how people communicate with one another. This is why he struggles with those who seek to push their beliefs, jump to conclusions, or put people in boxes.

His home is Newton, Kansas, where he lives with his wife and three teenage daughters. On the way to helping form Next Element Consulting in 2008, Nate pursued a PhD in clinical psychology and practiced clinical psychology for 11 years. His passions have always been around consulting, coaching, speaking, and working with groups.

He has developed deep expertise in social-emotional intelligence, group dynamics, mind-body-spirit health, communication skills, and the use of positive conflict to create. Nate is committed to the philosophy that the goal of a great communicator is not to see through people, but to see people through.

Nate loves studying models of human behavior and communication. He believes that the purpose of a good model is to change your mind about someone or something, not to make it up.

Nate has published two books, Beyond Drama: Transcending Energy Vampires, and his just released book, Conflict Without Casualties: A Field Guide for Leading With Compassionate Accountability.

Beyond visioning ways to share the message of compassionate accountability to more people, Nate loves woodworking, BBQ, camping and watching his daughters play volleyball.

Tweetable Quotes and Mentions

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“Conflict is not necessarily bad.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet

“Conflict is just a gap between what we want and what we’re experiencing.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“The question about conflict is, “How are we going to use that energy?”” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“We have predictable ways we get sideways and in distress with one another.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“There are three predictable roles that people play in drama.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“When people have conflict they handle it the same way over and over.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“We are at a crisis in our world with role the models and the way conflict is handled.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“On TV and social media my children see conflict that destroys.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“When our needs are put on the back burner to keep peace, that’s drama too.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“You can’t just nicely nice your way to great performance.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“Nobody does their best work when they’re afraid.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“It’s not fun to reflect on where we’ve messed up.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“With any leadership program, there’s going to be efforts to undermine and sabotage.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“Trust is a precious thing.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“Our gift can be our curse.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“As leaders our behaviors and choices have far reaching consequences.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“Pain needs to work on us and we need to give it time.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“No matter which role we play in drama, the ultimate goal is to not own our behavior.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“We play drama roles to try to get some else to take responsibility.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

“Avoid rescuing and be curious.” -Nate Regier Click To Tweet 

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Hump to Get Over

Nate Regier made a significant leadership blunder. Until he made a bigger one. Nate published a story about a client and didn’t get permission from the CEO. He also wrote the story in a manner which came across arrogant and self-serving. Listen to how Nate is STILL working to get over this hump.

Advice for others

We all have gifts and on the other side of that coin can be negative tendencies.”

Holding him back from being an even better leader

Transparency and honesty. And willingness to feel the pain.

Best Leadership Advice Received

It’s okay to ask for help.

Secret to Success

Ask for feedback, ask for feedback, and ask for feedback.

Best tools that helps in Business or Life

Avoid rescuing and be curious.

Recommended Reading

Beyond Drama: Transcending Energy Vampires

Conflict without Casualties: A Field Guide for Leading with Compassionate Accountability

Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box

The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict

Contacting Nate

Website: http://next-element.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nateregier

Twitter: https://twitter.com/NextNate

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NextElement/

Resources and Show Mentions

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Your Fast Leader Show host is Jim Rembach. Jim is a panel expert with the Customer Experience Professionals Association (CXPA) and spent many years in contact center operations and leverages this to help others. He is a certified Emotional Intelligence (EQ) practitioner, Certified Employee Retention Specialist, Certified Better Place to Work Expert, and frequently quoted industry expert.